Finding your Tribe in Recovery

As you begin to build a life in sobriety, it is important to find and connect with other sober individuals with whom you relate. Basing a friendship entirely around your common pursuit of lasting sobriety is acceptable but not ideal, as there is far more to life than your recovery program. Often those in early sobriety forget exactly how to go about finding and forming friendships with those with whom they share common interests. Here are a few tips to help you find and form a solid group of friends to walk with on the path of recovery.

In order to find those with whom you share common interests, you must first figure out exactly what your own interests are! This is one of the fun and exciting processes you get to experience in early sobriety, as you return to old and forgotten hobbies while also trying out new pastimes. Capitalize on your newfound free time in early recovery and try some new activities - you may be surprised what interests you now that you are no longer actively using drugs and alcohol!

Once you have figured out what your passions in life are at present, it is time to open up to those around you and see who shares your interests. The rooms of recovery are a great place to start, as AA and NA clubhouses often have established activity clubs and sports leagues for their members. If you find your specific interest doesn’t have a corresponding group, create one! This is a great way to force yourself to get out of your shell and talk to your peers in recovery, something you should already be doing as a person new in sobriety. You may feel a great deal of anxiety about raising your hand in a meeting and announcing you are forming a new social club or activity group, but the responses you get from those who share your interest will make you feel accomplished and a part of the community. This is well worth walking through the anxiety and taking action to further your sober support network and friend group!

It is important to build strong friendships with other sober individuals as you proceed in your recovery. Strong friendships have a foundation in more than just a shared interest in sobriety - you should have a multitude of interests and goals in common with those whom you surround yourself. To this end, you should figure out what your passions are now that you are a new person in sobriety, pursuing hobbies and interests with the same gusto you pursued drugs and alcohol. So long as you maintain your commitment to forming friendships with sober individuals as part of your recovery, you will most certainly succeed in achieving lasting sobriety!