“We do not regret the past, nor do we wish to shut the door on it.” This tenet of 12-step recovery programs is important to remember now more than ever, as the rollercoaster that is the year 2020 comes to a tumultuous end. Now more than ever we must strive to remove any feelings of guilt, shame or regret from our hearts and minds as we step out of the year 2020 and into the year 2021, as any emotional baggage we carry over into the new year would surely limit our success and growth in recovery. How can we let go of these negative thoughts and feelings as we welcome the new year?
Thorough stepwork is the best defense against the accumulation of resentments and other negative emotions within us. Our daily working of a tenth step to the best of our abilities goes a long way towards mitigating the buildup of negativity in our minds, but as we are not perfect there will inevitably be resentments and transgressions which escape our attention. You may find it beneficial to rework your fourth, fifth, eighth, and ninth steps with your sponsor in order to clear out these cobwebs in your mind which would interfere with your ability to proceed into the new year free from the ties of the past.