In our active addiction, fear was a primary motivator in our lives, spurring us to last minute action in order to ward of any threats to our continued substance abuse. Living in fear places us in a constant state of anxiety which we temporarily escaped with alcohol or drugs. Now that you are living in sobriety, it is important to confront and overcome any fears which continue to prey on your mind today. How can we go about facing and conquering our fears so we may succeed in recovery?
In order to overcome our fears we must first understand from where they originate. Often our deepest fears stem from traumatic experiences in our past which we have not properly processed, leading to negative beliefs which pervade every aspects of our lives. For example, the loss of a loved one in childhood, either due to their passing or a divorce, can lead to a generalized fear of abandonment as you maintain a belief that others in your life will similarly leave you. Until you proces the trauma which lead to this belief, you cannot eliminate this falsehood in your mind and will continue to suffer from the resulting fear. In these cases, it can be very helpful to work with a therapist in order to properly identify the root cause of your fears. This is part of the therapeutic methodology practiced at Evolutions Treatment Center, as we understand it is crucial to identify and resolve these traumas in order to facilitate lasting recovery.
Once you have determined the root of a particular fear that has been prevalent in your life, you must come to terms and make peace with those past events which have led to your developing those fears. This is much easier said than done as you have likely repressed these thoughts and emotions for quite some time. Your relationship with your higher power is key to your ability to let go of the past. Give these things up to the God of your understanding, recognizing your powerlessness in the situation and accepting the events as part of God’s will for your life. Only then will you be able to replace the false belief formed as a result of the trauma with that which aligns with the values you see in the God of your understanding, one that promotes faith rather than fear.
Fear is a natural part of the human experience, built in to our DNA to promote our continued survival. In our active addiction, we take fears to an unhealthy level, allowing them to become the primary source of our motivation which results in our existing in a constant state of anxiety. This cannot continue if we are to remain sober, and indeed one of the goals of the 12 steps of recovery is to remove fear and replace it with faith in a higher power of your own conception. You can get a head start in this process by working with your therapist in residential treatment to identify the traumas which have led to your fears. Above all else, you must remain committed to putting in the effort required to eliminate the unhealthy beliefs which cause your fears. So long as you keep up your willingness and dedication to your recovery, your higher power will help remove these fears from your life so you may live in peace and serenity!