When our lives are embroiled with an active addiction, it is often our belief that our actions are only harming one person—ourselves. The truth of the matter is that yes, we are harming ourselves but we are also harming our family and anyone who cares about us. That is why making amends as a part of our substance abuse recovery and usually a 12 step program is so important to our long term sobriety. Those who have put up with our behavior, helped us during our bad times, stood by us and lost sleep, and who spent endless amounts of precious worrying and praying for us deserve to see the best version of ourselves.
Where to Begin Making Amends
Most people that you've hurt in the course of your addiction will not want to hear you say that you're sorry.What your loved ones do want as you work to make amends is to hear you acknowledge what you did to hurt them. It is important to physically say what you did to show that you are taking accountability and that you are now changing your actions to make it right as best as you can. It's not simply saying something like “I stole property from you and that was not right of me". You should make it a point to acknowledge that you did hurt the person and really put thought into what you are saying.
No Excuses Allowed
To be blunt, there is no excuse for what you did and when you make amen