It is only natural for resentments to fester and grow while active addiction exists in your family and your home. As the addict regresses into an almost childlike state of helplessness the burden on their family expands, sowing the seeds of resentment as you see no alternative to giving in to the user’s demands. These resentments do not evaporate once your loved one admits defeat and accepts help for their substance abuse disorder - they need to be given a voice and processed in a healthy way so you can move forward in your relationships with each other as a family.
Resentments form when we accept the violation of our boundaries rather than defending them, sacrificing our serenity and our integrity. Biting your tongue instead of standing your ground is a slippery slope, as this quickly becomes normal behavior for you as the addict in your life pushes you as far as they can in order to further their substance abuse. Within the family unit, this pattern of pushing the limits spreads like a virus, as others in the ho